Ahhh A Day Off

So my dinner party for R's family yesterday went well...a nice time was had by all.  R's brother still smokes so that was a bit of a downer because he kept going outside to have a smoke and would come back in smelling like tobacco....ewwww  R's cousin in obsessing that she is about to have her 70th birthday and has no children and is worried that she will die and leave all her junk and stuff as a burden to someone to clean up so she is giving away her things...stuff like old family photo's and books...she brought two shoe boxes of old photo's with her and we spent the afternoon going through them...but R's sister was calling dibs on all the good ones so neither Tom or R actually took any...their sister took a huge envelope full of them back to the coast with her and the cousin took the rest home...again....I would have liked a few but it wasn't my place to take any so....less work for me, cause I would have then felt compelled to review my geneology work and update it...add the new photos... so yah it's okay.



They say around telling me how they were all dieting...and barely ate any of the food I made.... Pork Roast w/gravey, mashed potaotes, lazy cabbage roll casserole, crepes, steamed green beans, a fresh lettuce from my garden salad, home made apple sauce and for dessert my fabulous refreshing frozen Raspberry dessert.

They asked me how I was feeling and then when I decided to tell them rather than just say "fine" like I usually do...they told me I should count my blessings, that there were people a lot worse off in the world...bla de bla de bla bla.... 

and I agree...I am lucky...lucky that what I have probably won't kill me at least not directly...it will just make the remaining 30+ years (should I be so lucky) I do have left, an absolute misery...hahahahahaha  but you know what... I don't give a damn what anyone else thinks....in my little world, what is happening to me IS a big deal...and if I am having a bad week and I want to complain....I will, you don't have to listen....ahahahaha

So once I get my set down....my sister in law says that her daughter nairn...(who is struggling with breast cancer) has not complained once about all  her problems of kemo and infection etc.....  I felt like a little kid getting a verbal thrashing...and made to feel ashamed....so next time they ask I will give my generic answer of "Fine" and leave it at that...ahahahaha  if you don't want to know...don't ask...  I mean I never thought I would become one of those people who all they talked about was their health...ahahah so I am making a mental note to self....stop whining....

After R's cousin and Aunt left, his brother an sister and I sat at the table and had a nice visit...and R made us a really nice lunch...mind you I had all the platters made up but he put it all on the table, made us some tea and it was great...he was a huge help to me all that morning too.... he rarely does that but I think he could see how tired I was and stayed in the house yesterday to give me a hand...he set the table, vaccumed, cut veggies and washed fruit...of course the TV had to be on so he could watch the Soccer games but it was a small price to pay for all his help...he helped after wards too, clearing the table and loading the dish washer...while I washed the pots in the sink.

Tomorrow, we start my landscaping project...we are , for the first time ever going to rent a peice of equipment...a sod cutter, to take up the grass and move it somewhere else we need lawn...ahahahah  R does't want to waste it.  then lay the block retaining wall and fill it with dirt...then apparently haying will commence...what there is to cut...it is very short since we haven't had any rain now for two weeks and it is like the desert here again...the lawn is scorched brown and crackles when you walk on it...hahahahaha

this little white kitten with the black marks is becoming an annoying little pest...every morning and evening his mother brings him into the courtyard where he runs wild...climbing all the shrubs and when the branches, which are to small to hold his weight, bend and break he runs to another one and uses it as a scratching post...he digs holes in the soil and spews dirt all over the sidewalks...and is generally trampling everything in his path...he runs across the bricks to where I have ornamental grasses growing beside the pond...and he pounces into the middle of the clump, flattening it all then he races around a bit and jumps from boulder to boulder around the pond...and nearly falls in...before he races off to begin some other near disaster...while his mother lounges nearby, watching him from squinty eyes...thank god she only had one kitten to bring into the yard...  I assume this kitten is a male simply because of his brazen dare devil manner. Yesterday he and his mother were play wrestling...and she had him in a headlock and was doing the rabbit kick, with both her back legs...I guess it is teaching him how to fight...but I can't wait for her to take him out on hunting expiditions and get him the hell away from my plants...